AIT Soldier is Ordered by Platoon Sergeant not to get into a Car with Father (an Officer), because it is Fraternization! | - Leader Development for Army Professionals - Part 2

AIT Soldier is Ordered by Platoon Sergeant not to get into a Car with Father (an Officer), because it is Fraternization!

1. Is the relationship between a parent and a child fraternization under Army Regulation?

2. Was the intent of the policy/regulation on fraternization intended to be applied to family relationships?

3.  How can this relationship possibly adversely impact the good order and discipline of the unit and/or Army?

4.  Who if anyone should be held accountable/responsible?

5. What are some reasonable solutions to this situation?

6. What should be done in this case?

 Let’s Put This Into Perspective

Everyday leaders are faced with situations that do not have clear and specific solutions.  Yet other times Leaders become wrapped up in enforcing the regulation and potentially lose sight of the true purpose, meaning, and intent of a regulation, order or law.


Let’s look at it from a perspective most of us can relate to.  I do not know of anyone that can tell me that 100% of the time they obey the speed limit.  Some drive 5 miles over regularly, others do their best to obey the speed limit to the absolute best of their ability, but fall short.

A Police Officer pulls you over one day states you were driving say 1, 2,3,4,5 miles over the speed limit.  The police officer cannot reasonably stop every person who is driving over the speed limit.  It is simply not possible.  Therefore the Officer selectively enforces the speed limit, not necessarily by choice but by physical limitations of resources, AND then maybe the officer stopped you not necessarily for driving over the speed limit but because you also pulled out in front of them, which forced the Officer to slam on the brakes and spill their coffee.  Perhaps the Officer ignores individuals driving 10 miles an hour or more over the speed limit.  Perhaps the officer tickets everyone they can who is driving 1 mile or more over the speed limit.  When the Officer is writing your ticket for 1 MPH over there are individuals driving by the traffic stop at the speed of light but they are not receiving a ticket. WHAT GIVES!

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posted on 02/28/2015 under Articles, Site News
Mark is a Retired Command Sergeant Major with 26 years of military leadership experience. He held 3 military occupational specialties (Field Artillery, Nuclear Weapons Tech, and Ammunition Ordnance). Mark is one of the leading military authors in the fields of leadership, counseling, and training..

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