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How can I put an end to ongoing spousal abuse?

We have a Soldier who likes to threaten his spouse. He has told her that she cannot come to the unit to talk with the chain of command about the problem. This Soldier tells the spouse that he is going to leave her and that she is trying to destroy his career. This is an ongoing problem. Both parties have been known to engage in domestic violence against one another. The non service member is afraid to move forth with charges for fear of reprisal. I know DV is a big problem. We have gotten that under control. Is there anything that can be done about the threats? What is the actual "crime committed," so to speak and what are some consequences for this service members actions?

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This is no doubt a leadership challenge. Unfortunately, the issue becomes more complicated when the spouse is unwilling to cooperate.

Suspension of privileges over spouse safety concerns

The commander can revoke all kinds of privileges: pass, off post living, phone, personal property, alcohol, MWR, the list goes on. The key is to relate the revocation of privilege to the issue at hand. If there is danger in the home perhaps separating them for a period while they attend counseling would work. He could revoke pass, off post, phone, he could even issue a no-contact order other than at the time at counseling. If alcohol has been involved in the past he could revoke this privilege as well.

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Mark is a Retired Command Sergeant Major with 26 years of military leadership experience. He held 3 military occupational specialties (Field Artillery, Nuclear Weapons Tech, and Ammunition Ordnance). Mark is one of the leading military authors in the fields of leadership, counseling, and training.

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