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Should I refuse to sign counseling statements I do not agree with?

It looks like I will be getting a counseling statement I do not agree with. I am not planning on signing it. Is this a bad idea?

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You have a few options:

Should I refuse to sign my counseling statement

Rather than refusing to sign your counseling statement, you can sign and write a rebuttal instead.

Option 1: You could refuse to sign. This does not usually help the situation and can ultimately put you at a significant disadvantage. If you happen to be working for an unethical leader, you empower them by not signing. The leader can simply write “Soldier refused to sign”  and sign/date the form himself. At any later date the leader could write a counseling statement without your knowledge, and simply write “Soldier refused to sign.” You’ve set a precedent at that point. If you try to contest the counseling, the leader can say, “He always refuses to sign his counseling statements.”  It then becomes your responsibility to prove the counselings did or did not take place. You are now on the defensive. The odds of this happening are slim but why put yourself in this position?

Option 2 (Recommended): Disagree with the counseling and  write a rebuttal. If you need time to write your rebuttal  you can request a reasonable period of time to respond to the counseling statement. Write “I request 24 hours to properly prepare my response to this counseling”.

If the leader refuses to allow you a reasonable time period to respond, write “I requested 24 hours to prepare my rebuttal to this counseling and SGT Doe refused to allow me adequate time to prepare my response.”

If he does allow you time to prepare your response, write  “Please see attached sheet.”

Note: Refusing to sign a counseling statement shows a lack of maturity and professionalism on your part. It simply sets you up for failure. The best course of action is to disagree with the counseling and write your rebuttal.  Make sure you get a copy of the counseling statement. You are entitled to a copy.

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Mark is a Retired Command Sergeant Major with 26 years of military leadership experience. He held 3 military occupational specialties (Field Artillery, Nuclear Weapons Tech, and Ammunition Ordnance). Mark is one of the leading military authors in the fields of leadership, counseling, and training.

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  • Sgt Johnson

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    How can you respond to an unethical “leader” who is giving you a negative counseling. What happens with the response and who handles it? Does it go up from there? I know this leader is going to give me negative counseling and there is no reason for it at all, she’s doing it unethically and I’m preparing to write a response but I just need to know if it’s going to go above her. Or what else can I do! This was really isn’t fair I didn’t do anything wrong at all. I want to go above her to be heard.

    • Mark Gerecht

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      Sgt Johnson, many of your questions have been answered on our YouTube site Mentor Military. Please review the video about recording a counseling session and there are videos that discuss how to tell your side of the story in a counseling session how to work with unethical leaders. Hope this helps!

  • Ethel nelson

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    I am a cpl in the Army Forces and want to know how long do I have to sign a counseling after I have been counseled

    • Mark Gerecht

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      Generally you are to sign the document when it is presented to you. Failure to sign at that time allows the leader to place a statement on the counseling form that you refused to sign. On another note please stop by our YOUTUBE CHANNEL Mentor Military as it has tons of information on these type subjects and much more. If you like what you see please subscribe and tell your network. Respectfully TOP!

  • haines

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    can your squad leader order your team leader to give you a negative counseling?

  • 419 Consulting

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    I recieved a counseling statement for showing up late AT orders. Later that day the co says redo it and give him extra duty. Is that even possible?

  • Pvt snuffy

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    Can an NCO from another service ie. Air Force, give me a counseling statement if I am in the Army? The TSgt is a course manager at a joint service school.

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