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Can my Leadership become involved in my private or personal life?

Recently my leadership starting getting involved in my personal life and I think it is inappropriate. Can they do this?

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The real answer to this is: It depends!


There are limits to some personal information like medical issues.  The command may have the right to know certain information about you medically as it impacts your ability to perform but other than that your medical situation is very private and protected by certain laws.

Other Issues

Then there are situations that your Leadership can certainly become involved, should the Soldier allow the issue to enter the workplace. Some examples might  include: drugs, alcohol, domestic issues, affairs, inappropriate relationships, etc.  These items are punishable under the UCMJ and when brought to the attention of leadership they must take appropriate action.

In the situations I mentioned above it is absolutely appropriate for leadership to take action and become involved because the Soldier brought their private life into the professional realm.

If you believe the chain of command might be violating a right you can contact the IG or JAG anonymously and explain the situation.  They can provide guidance as to whether or not leadership is acting appropriately.

This is the best way to avoid this issue all together is to:   Keep your Private life Private!

By doing this your Private life will not surface in the work place.  So take appropriate measures to Keep Your Private Life Private!

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Mark is a Retired Command Sergeant Major with 26 years of military leadership experience. He held 3 military occupational specialties (Field Artillery, Nuclear Weapons Tech, and Ammunition Ordnance). Mark is one of the leading military authors in the fields of leadership, counseling, and training.

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