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My unit is requiring family members speak with the chain of command to get to know them better. Do I have to do this?

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I can appreciate how you feel…the military is different than other employment.

The command needs to be able to know and understand family members to better serve their needs especially when the unit is deployed.

If you don’t want to participate this is something you might consider discussing with the chain of command and/or the 1SG/CDR on open door policy.

I don’t know of any regulation that requires them to get to know your family. There are policies that require you take proper care of them and that they are self sufficient during deployments and training.

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Mark is a Retired Command Sergeant Major with 26 years of military leadership experience. He held 3 military occupational specialties (Field Artillery, Nuclear Weapons Tech, and Ammunition Ordnance). Mark is one of the leading military authors in the fields of leadership, counseling, and training.

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