It saddens me when a couple gets divorced. Unfortunately people sometimes have a difficult time working through problems and divorce is a fact of life. I have attached a document that you might consider providing to a Soldier when you conduct a counseling on divorce. Keep in mind this does not apply to all situations but it can give you a general idea of questions to ask and items to consider. I hope this couple can work things out. No one wins in a divorce.
See the attachment below. The information is specifically tailored for Maryland state laws, but it will give you a good place to start your research.