Can I be chaptered for two minor counseling statements?

Technically yes, you can be sep­a­rated for pat­terns of mis­con­duct (Chapter 14-12b). If the vio­la­tions are as minor as you state, the odds are slight that a chap­ter would be granted. However, the fact that the com­man­der has indi­cated the pos­si­bil­ity of a chap­ter action should raise a red flag to you. He may be giv­ing you a ver­bal warn­ing order to shape up hop­ing this will be enough to get you squared away. I advise you take his warn­ing seriously.

Time to shape up

I encour­age you to be the best Soldier you can pos­si­bly be and per­haps request a meet­ing with the 1SG/CDR on open door pol­icy and get a ver­bal under­stand­ing of their expec­ta­tions of you. Odds are their expec­ta­tions will be to per­form to Army Standard. As long as you are com­ply­ing with Army Standard you have noth­ing to worry about. With that stated remem­ber atti­tude and tone are every­thing. Be pro­fes­sional, calm, unemo­tional, and fac­tual. No one can do any­thing to you unless you pro­vide them the ammo, put the ammo in the gun, and pull the trig­ger. In other words it is dif­fi­cult for a chain of com­mand to do some­thing to you with­out you doing some­thing to ini­ti­ate the action.

Be hon­est and sin­cere. Accept respon­si­bil­ity for your actions and do the best you can. This will likely be enough to restart your rela­tion­ship with your chain of command.

I have pro­vided two extracts for you to read with regard to your ques­tion. Read these extracts and edu­cate your­self on the process and pro­ce­dure. These are attached below.

Look at it from their perspective

Having spent a lot of time as a senior leader at the Platoon Sergeant, 1SG, and CSM level I can assure most com­mands do not take any plea­sure in sep­a­rat­ing a Soldier. They would rather see a Soldier excel. They have a lot on their plate and do not have the time focus on one indi­vid­ual. Your goal should be to ensure that when they think of you they see a respon­si­ble and reli­able Soldier. Depending on what has hap­pened this may be easy or some­what hard, but it is def­i­nitely pos­si­ble and it will all start with a lit­tle communication.

Now with all of this said under­stand that most Soldiers go through a period like this dur­ing their term of ser­vice. What makes the dif­fer­ence is how the Soldiers chooses to han­dle the issue. There are bad lead­ers and I under­stand that, but you must trust that most lead­ers: (1) do not try to be bad lead­ers, (2) are unaware they are bad lead­ers, or (3) do not care. If you are work­ing for a bad leader some­one in your chain of com­mand will real­ize it as you go through the process. Your best course of action is to do the right thing–even when no one else is look­ing and trust your chain of command.