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How do I help a Soldier who is distracted by responsibilities at home?

I have a Soldier who is a distraction to the platoon because he is constantly away from work for appointments. His wife is in a wheelchair and can't take care of their child. What can I do?

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The command can direct the Soldier to implement a Family Care Plan IAW AR 600-20, pg 39 para 5-5 b(2) which reads in part:

A Soldier who has no spouse; is divorced, widowed, or separated, or is residing apart from his or her spouse; who has joint or full legal and physical custody of one or more Family members under the age of 19; or who has adult Family members incapable of self-care regardless of age.”

Notice the last condition “has an adult Family member incapable of self care.” This provides the chain of command the ability to implement a family care plan that the Soldier must be capable of implementing so that they can perform their duties.

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    Yes, we should use empathy when dealing with our Soldiers, but we also have to worry about the “impression” it creates with our other Soldiers. If one Soldier is always away from work, and “gets lots of time off to take care of family appointments, it can negatively impact morale in the unit.

    At a minimum, have the Soldier create a Family Care Plan. You should also sit down and have a heart-to-heart talk with the Soldier to see if there is a creative way to resolve the problem. If nothing can fix the situation, consider separating the Soldier. That might be the best thing to do for your Soldier and for the Army!

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