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A SPC & SSG are involved not married, living overseas, and PCSing to different US locations- What are their options?

A SPC and SSG in the same unit overseas. They are now expecting a baby but are in fear of disclosing their relationship. Both are scheduled to leave their overseas assignment and will be stationed at different units in the states. They are distraught! Mom is getting very depressed and constantly upset. She will not get help out of fear. She wants to stay in. Is there any recourse for mom at all?

Without knowing the complete story it is hard to give a complete response.

If adultery is not involved I do not see why these two individuals would have these problems because AR 600-20 does not necessarily prevent enlisted personnel from being in a relationship. If the SSG is her supervisor then this is an issue. Otherwise they should be good to go.

If the only violation is that they are a SPC and SSG in the same unit I am not sure this is such a big legal issue.  If this is the case the Soldiers can contact the IG and/or JAG and do so anonymously and lay out their case to see if they actually did anything wrong.  In many cases while the Army does not approve of these types of relationship they are not necessarily illegal.  So it might be best for them to sit down with a qualified source like a JAG officer and discuss the issue.  If I am not mistaken they can speak to a JAG officer about the issue in confidence without fear of their actions being disclosed.  I know the Chaplain and medical authority to a certain degree are protected communications.  I also believe JAG falls in this category for most things.

posted on 05/09/2014 under Q&A
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Mark is a Retired Command Sergeant Major with 26 years of military leadership experience. He held 3 military occupational specialties (Field Artillery, Nuclear Weapons Tech, and Ammunition Ordnance). Mark is one of the leading military authors in the fields of leadership, counseling, and training.

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